One of the biggest tragedies of my life was having siblings,
1; and 2, having an excellent bonding with them. The two siblings that I have,
fulfilled almost every emotional need I encountered in my life; especially that
of a friend. In fact like a true friend I found them holding a gun in my every
fight; and like a family holding a magnifier to all my faults. And I earnestly
believe that finding closest friends in your siblings can be quite unfortunate;
primarily because you end up with those people as friends with whom you happen
to share not just your strengths and weaknesses; successes and failures; but
also childhood, clothes, parents and even genes. If that does not make life
complicated what does!!! So it wasn’t strange that none of us siblings made “many”
friends outside the family circle. But we did make a few. And this is where it
gets weird. We pulled the best friends we had in the family circle… or as I choose
to call it now, the scare sphere. We married our respective best friends. So now
we actually don’t know what skeletons may tumble down the closet, which
annoying potty training incident may become a topic of detail discussion at
family gatherings.
So it came as a revelation to me, a moment of reevaluation
for all my life choices; when my baby brother (he actually turned 32 last
year); remarked that I have a low EQ. And; the next one remarking that “sis has
improved on it now”. And all this as a prequel to a family gathering; on a
conference call planning it. So this is why I call the “sibling bonding” as
unfortunate. Because now I find myself looking for the term EQ; and reading
this heavy (both literally and figuratively) book on EQ.
and so I begin, a journey to understand and "improve" EQ:
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